Etiquette dating after death spouse
Many widow/widowers may wonder when is the proper time to remove an engagement ring and/or wedding ring and, after doing so, what should be done with them.
The only possible response to this question is -- do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
Once a widow hits 65, the odds for remarriage fall off sharply.
Our wedding rings are still sitting in my safe deposit box waiting to be given to my sons, if they so desire. Before I said anything the jeweler chimes in "we're OK" and gives me a wink.
I never wore another ring of any type until I married again eight years after my loss.
Later on, as I met others in a similar circumstances, this topic usually came up and everyone seemed to have a different idea.
Ellen Gerst is a Life Coach specializing in grief and relationships and the author of several books on grief, including "A Practical Guide to Widow/erhood," born out of Ellen's own experiences as a young widow; 101 Tips and Thoughts on Coping with Grief, an easy-to read reference guide filled with suggestions for every day use on moving through the grief journey; and "Love After Loss: Writing The Rest of Your Story." "Love After Loss" is a blueprint on how to use her successful method to redesign your life to include a new love connection after the loss of a partner.
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In retrospect, if I had to do it over again, I probably would have worn my wedding band a lot longer, but, again, once I took it off, it didn’t seem right to put it back on.