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Ying, 30, said she had had a crush on her current boyfriend long before they went out.
Even though he was Korean — and so, perhaps, not so judgmental — she waited for him to make the first move.
She sent a message, the kind that has appeared in many thousands of all-girl chats throughout history: “Girls, what should I do? I remember receiving eerily similar messages from my childhood friends, high-school friends, and even former colleagues — poorly taken photos of guys with hopeful captions that illustrate their anticipation and excitement at the possibility of romance — but most of the time, those feelings are left unspoken.
While it has been written countless times that expat women in Bangkok have it hard when it comes to dating (and we’ll be hitting that topic ourselves in just a couple of weeks), when you look around, plenty of lovely, single Thai women don’t seem to be doing any better.
Pang, 28, works in the Thai military, is taller than most Thai men, and of a medium build.
She didn’t date at all during her four years in college, but when she was shipped off to military training in the US, where people are generally more open about appearances, she finally clicked with someone — actually, more than one.
She thinks that her appearance doesn’t live up to society’s definition of beauty, making it even more difficult for her to date. The fact that I realize this makes me limit myself from going after someone,” she said.
In fact, approaching someone in public is not common — and even frowned upon — in a culture where people are not expected to engage with strangers and can now keep their noses glued to their smartphones in public.
But by avoiding that kind of small talk, the chances of finding love outside their social circles is very slim and leaves them with a tiny dating pool.
Think about the invisible office girls in ballet flats that you look right through on the BTS, the good girls who live with their parents in the suburbs, or the intense career women who receive more messages on Linked In than Tinder. While there are no men courting them, they’re not bold enough when it comes to romance — they simply weren’t raised to assert themselves with the opposite sex.
Add that to the idea that Thai men tend to think poorly of aggressive and straightforward women, and you end up with a lot of Thai women who don’t even bother trying.
So, while chatting and giggling to friends about guys you like may be hilarious, the sad truth is that many Thai women seem to put themselves in the relatively hopeless position of playing the waiting game — just praying that the men they like will like them back and take the initiative.