Dating someone who suffers from depression
It’s perfectly okay for us to have a therapist, or even a particular friend who we know will understand. You don’t need to stay in a relationship with someone who isn’t right for you because you’re scared of how we’ll react.
You don't need to avoid dating someone with depression, but it will most likely require you to invest a little more effort into your relationship than you otherwise would.
If we say there’s no reason or we don’t know, we mean it. We don’t just need to turn on the light) at 2am the next night. It still feels like there’s a lot of stigma around mental illness and we’re scared of being judged. All easier said than done when your brain’s telling you to stay in bed in the dark and never, ever leave your room.
Depression doesn’t always have to be permanent, but a commitment to mental health is a lifelong thing. We’re not dark and edgy, we’ve got a mental illness. Yes, depression can mute and swamp our personality and make it like it’s taken us over. Please take a moment to appreciate that we’ve opened up and told you what we’re dealing with. You’re reeeeeally not helping by reminding us of all the things we’re failing at doing.
That makes being in a relationship difficult as well as handling everyday life.
You might make plans to go out a week in advance, but when the day rolls around, they may not be up to it. Sometimes it's predictable, and sometimes it's not.
It can give the impression that you do not accept them as they are.